Bras

So when you get pregnant your boobs get huge, and then after you give birth they get enormous, and then if you breastfeed they stay a gigantic size until you finish. Now my point is, why do a lot of clothing shops not cater for every bra size? I have big boobs and have an awful time trying to find a bra that fits.

I went round the local shopping centre yesterday and tried different shops, (New Look, Next and even <3 Yours) My size weren't anywhere, I even tried at Sainsbury's, there was nothing! It was like all the bras my size had vanished into the void...

I've also noticed that nice bras are not generally made for women with big breasts, unless you are willing to spend a fortune on one, which for some women just isn't realistic. This was a problem for me before I was pregnant, I remember being in Primark looking at all the different styles and colours, and even though they said they went to D cup you could never find one, which would leave me having to go and settle for a normal T-Shirt bra, either white, black or nude in colour.

I know that sizes in shops have got better because a 32 D is a lot easier to find now, whereas before it was near enough impossible, though I would love for someone to tell me where to find a 36 F without being charged £30, normal shops don't seem to go that big and then the shops for larger women don't do 36 they start from 38 it's absolutely ridiculous.

Sometimes it feels as though I will be stuck shopping at Mother Care for the rest of my life wearing nursing/maternity bras, though I also found trouble finding a bra there!

Has anyone else experienced this problem, especially as a mum? Let me know in the comments :)

Tasha Rants: Paternity

Ok as you can tell by my title this post is going to be one where I am complaining. I have just seen an article on my Facebook which asks whether dads should be able to share paternity leave with the mother's maternity leave, and I think not. However, I do think paternity leave should be a few weeks longer (though not taken off the mother's maternity), it takes a woman about 6 weeks to fully recover (depending on delivery), so logically a man should be able to have that amount of time off so he can ensure his partner is doing ok, because not only is the woman still recovering but giving birth can have a psychological strain as well, so support from a partner is definitely needed.

The main reason a woman has maternity leave is, so she can get better after birth and feed her baby (the natural way), don't get me wrong I have nothing against women who bottle feed it's their choice, but that is the specific reason why maternity is so long.

Why do both parents need to look after the baby together? Not being harsh or funny, but women have been looking after babies on their own for many years now, why all of a sudden has it turned into such a difficult task? Now don't get me wrong I love dropping my son off at my mother's so she can look after him for an hour or two but that is only a couple of days a week, the rest of the time my son is all mine, like he should be.

Also, in the comment section of this post I read, there were loads of women complaining that paternity pay isn't enough and that you can't possibly live off that much money, and the funny thing is, paternity pay is the exact same as maternity pay £138 p/w (the basic amount anyway), no one mentioned how it's disgusting that a woman doesn't get paid the amount she was earning while pregnant, after she's had her baby and lets face it if you're a single mum £138 p/w isn't going to do much is it?

I also think it's wrong these days how both parents are expected to go back to work, and have your child looked after by someone else, especially since looking after a child is a full time job itself. I know some people will say that I must have a medieval view point but, if the dad works and earns enough to support a family, then why should the mum go back to work? Now don't get me wrong I don't think it's a woman's job to be a housewife but surely having one parent at home is going to be a lot more beneficial for the kids, than sending them to a child minder.

Separation

Ok I know the title sounds a bit dramatic because it's not like my baby has gone to live anywhere else, but me and my partner have decided it would now be best to put him in his own room. He is now 4 months old and is too big for his Moses Basket, so we really don't have a choice, but I believe I am going to miss the midnight snuggles with him and not being able to just lean over and see if he is ok is going to hurt... :(

I do believe though that it will be a good for thing for him, as hopefully it will help to build his independence, he also tends to need to be rocked to sleep or bounced in someones arms, and I am hoping that in a few days he will be able to make himself drift off on his own, and if that doesn't work, he has a little aquarium on the side of his cot which plays music, which he can turn on by his self.

I think some people see separation anxiety as something a toddler would get because they don't think their mum/dad is coming back, but I also think as a parent s/a is something common, especially as a new parent, it's as though your maternal instinct is no longer valid because you can't just lean over and check if they're ok, it just doesn't feel natural to no longer have your baby in the same room as you at night time.

I must say, I hate how quick they grow.